Why did I choose to jump into the mindset arena?
I realized yesterday that I had never shared why or how I decided to switch gears into the mindset space. To me, it's a no-brainer because I share my thoughts, feelings, and thinking with my friends and family.. well pretty much anyone who will listen... but I've noticed that there is a gap between my “real” life and my “virtual” life.
I haven't been sharing my reasonings, my why, and my purpose for switching focus, so let's do that today.
As many of you know, I have been an athlete, what many would call a “high achiever”, and a “high performer” my entire life. When I was 8 years old I started gymnastics and immediately I knew that I wanted to be a college gymnast on scholarship. The good news? I was well on my way to doing that. I had competed at many high-level competitions, and I have been on the podium many, many times. However, when I was 13 I developed knee pain and at 14 that knee pain was diagnosed as Osteosarcoma bone cancer, which resulted in an amputation of the right leg.
I guess you can say there was a gap in my life when I was no longer a “high performer”. When I was going through cancer I thought I was going through it with a mindset of competition, “I've got this”, “this is going to be great”, and “life is going to be great once I am cancer-free”, but in reality, I was just dissociated from what I was going through. I didn't learn until years later that this was how I was handling my situation, I thought I was being motivated, but in reality I was running from reality. I was holding on to this belief that when I got through cancer my life was going to be the way that it was before. I was holding on to this belief that nothing changed in the outside world, the only thing that changed was what I was going through. The truth of the matter is when I rang that bell saying that I was cancer-free, that was the hardest and worst day of my life. I was finally struck with the reality that my life was no longer my life. I didn't have gymnastics, I didn't have friends, I didn't have my goals, passion, and purpose. I didn't have a life worth fighting for.
I lived in this depression for a while before my family had enough because at 15 and I had my whole life ahead of me. If I continue lying on the couch with no direction, cancer wins. It doesn't matter how healthy you are, it doesn't matter what the test results say, if you're not living a life you're proud of then the hardest day is still winning; cancer was still winning.
Since then, I made it my mission to live a life worth fighting for, regardless of how good or bad my life is at that moment. It doesn't matter what is happening, I was going to make it the best, so that is why I'm sharing this with you. I want you to know you don't have to wait for the pain to show you what you're capable of. You can start living a life worth fighting for now.
After the Paralympics, I became obsessed with understanding what makes people resilient, empowered, and constantly achieving. I wanted to know what it was exactly that made people grow. I firmly believe that no one is special. I don't believe that anybody is unique, I believe they just have different tools and ways of using those tools to develop and strengthen themselves to work at a higher level.
During this time I found the benefits of mindset work and the benefits of working through limiting beliefs. I discovered the benefits of mindfulness, meditation, wellness, spirituality and all of these buzzwords in today's world. I finally had a way to put words to what I had been doing my entire life. The reason I'm sharing this with you guys is because just like I had said before, who am I to hoard this information? Who am I to take what I've learned and only use it for myself?
I believe in this process, I believe in the power of mindset, mindfulness, and a wellness lifestyle; so who am I to not share it and to teach people to do the same within their own life? I believe in a lot of ways, sports gave me a privilege and the leg up (hehe) in this world and I want to share those tools with everyone. I want you to have the ability to implement the same in your life.
I do want to pause here to acknowledge that I had to do a lot of healing before I could solely focus on this work. I had to heal my childhood, from cancer, and other trauma. I had to do a lot of healing before I could get to a place of empowerment in my mindset, so if you were dealing with trauma I highly recommend seeking a psychologist or psychiatrist to help you with your trauma. Now, if you are just having negative thoughts, negative beliefs, and negative patterns and you're struggling to get out of it, this is where limiting belief work can really be beneficial to you.
I am excited to share with you all I have learned about what it takes to be and stay a high achiever, how to avoid burnout, strive for greatness and growth when things are hard, and how to see yourself through the lens of confidence and not the lens of lack. I look forward to showing you the benefits of mindset work, meditation, and wellness practices.
I firmly believe that we all have the potential to be at the top of the podium in our goals. I firmly believe that we all have the potential to live a life of peace, love, and happiness.
I am tired of seeing so many people waiting for the bad things that happen in life to show them what they're capable of. You don't have to wait for the pain to start practicing and implementing these tools that will help you move through the experience. You can start living a life worth fighting for now.